With the news full of Amanda Todd, many of us have gone into some deep reflection of school years where we were harassed and tormented on a daily basis.
We feel very deeply for that young girl, even though we didn't know her.
It has struck a chord because we can empathize with what she was feeling to a certain extent.
The hopelessness, the fear, the....shame?
It was different back when I was in school, then, we were not wired into our school peers at home. The internet has made it that much worse for many kids. Running the daily gauntlet on the bus (which I simply refused to use much of the time) going to school and just feeling like it was hell to get through a day. But if you made it home, and could just hide in your bedroom and have a good cry- daily...Home was not all that much better BTW.
I have to admit, it was so very awful at my school that I left without even graduating. Many will say that the victims should just suck it up, it's part of childhood!
Ya, going to school to see your locker painted with horrible words, items being stolen that were later found trashed... being terrorized in the hallways and gym class....Mental and physical abuse...
So normal hey?
I still feel robbed to this day. Yes, I have a diploma that I actually went back for years later. With all the credits I had missed it took two years of night school.
Do you think that any former bullies are feeling any need to go over the acts they committed against their victims?
I have to fess up, in this day of facebook I found my high school tormentor a while back. I went and looked again today because I have been pondering...
She is older of course, but the smile in her profile pic still gives me the heebie jeebies.
I followed some info gleaned through the photos while looking for her cohorts, and found it totally ironic that at least two of her friends have "liked" the Amanda Todd tribute pages. They think bullying is not OK, but are the friend of a major nasty bully. *shrug*
I will not contact her of course. Just going to leave that one be forever.
I wonder if she or her circle of friends from high school think about any of the things they did back then? I know it affected my life, I kind of doubt they feel anything today or even remember it.
We as a society look like we are trying to eradicate bullying, but when I look at who is running the country.....
We like to think that everyone gets their just desserts in life like in the movies. But life ain't fair.
Cyberbullying is a modernized version of what has been going on for years. More insidious because it follows kids wherever they go. Kids cannot simply give social media up either, this is part of the evolution of our society and technology.
No. This is a much bigger issue than just the internet. It is cultural, and it starts very early in the development of children. And it seems to be rewarded more often than not when looking at some of the most powerful figures in our world.
How's this? If you do recall tormenting someone you went to school with or worked with, and have even a shred of a conscience? Drop them a line and apologize. Then show it to your children. Learning starts at home.